So you've gotten yourself here, to the world of BDSM. Maybe you've pushed your fuck boundaries for a while and want to step up your game, or you're just a sick puppy that wants to have some extreme fun. Either way, we here at Bang! are all for it and want for you to get your rocks off your way.
BDSM is super fun when you know what you're doing, but it does come with some know how. For one, you want everyone to have fun and not get their boundaries pushed too much, so consent is key. And comfort. Yes, if you're gonna spank someone with a wooden spoon while they're dangling from your high ceiling you better make sure both of you are on the same page. Just sayin'.
What Is BDSM?
Let's get into the basics, and technicals real quick so you know what you're getting your cock or pussy into. BDSM, an acronym that stands for bondage, discipline, dominance, submission, sadism, and masochism, is a way of fucking that involves power dynamics, role-playing, and various forms of sensation and control. To break those down for you a bit, here's what those words actually mean.
Bondage: Involves restraining a person using ropes, cuffs, or other devices, for various reasons like sensory deprivation or aesthetic enjoyment.
If you've never gotten arrested, you can always have someone tie you down to a radiator if you want.
Discipline: Pertains to consensual punishment or training within the context of the relationship, focusing on behavior modification and learning.
Some of us really need that just to do dishes.
Dominance and Submission: Dominance refers to one person (the dominant) having control and authority, while submission involves another person (the submissive) willingly giving up control. These roles can be temporary or more permanent within a relationship.
Think of a sketchy high level businessman who steals money from thousands of people by day, only to get spanked and start licking high heel boots by night while crying.
Sadism: Involves deriving pleasure from inflicting pain, both physical and psychological, on someone else consensually. This is done within predefined limits and with the consent and pleasure of the receiving party.
This one has to be done with great care, all the while fucking someone up in one way or another while both of you are cumming.
Masochism: Refers to deriving pleasure from experiencing pain or humiliation within agreed-upon boundaries and with the consent of all involved parties.
Not for everyone, but you know...
How To Get Into The BDSM Community
If you like what you read above, the internet is your friend. It's unlikely someone at a party or even will approach you and say, 'Hey, I'm Susan/John, and I like to be tied down, dominated and spanked', but you can always hope for that.
To get into this you should just hit the internet, and of course, be careful not to get into some weirdos basement. There are a lot of BDSM communities though online, on Reddit, etc. so that's a good way to go.
Also, if you live in a...let's just say... "free" city, town or state, you can always find some public club or venue where people go and you can actually meet them in a comfortable public setting. Los Angeles, for example, there are no shortage of those. Certain events too will help you meet likeminded people and if you're lucky, they can make you cum like a machine gun by the end of the night.
Why Should You Try BDSM?
Well, different strokes for different folks, but BDSM is pretty great when you've put some miles on your genitals and need a little bit more to get off. There are many extremes here too, so pick your speed and don't get in over your head going off the deep end right off the bat.
Also, it's not like regular sex that is done and over with. A good roleplay, or tying up, or any of the above mentioned parts of BDSM, can take hours or even longer. You're in for it for the experience and to push your sexual boundaries. You can get off to things you didn't even know you were into, so go find someone who looks like your fantasy, tie them up or have them tie you up, do some spanking and dominating, then go have a nice dinner after. Nobody but the two of you will know...but you'll know.
