We all like to think we are sex machines... oozing with confidence, bursting with hormones and exploding with energy to go all, night, long. But then reality checks in. And hey, sometimes we're just not into it! That might be well and good in a world where we have no significant other, but when you have your special someone staring you down for a naughty roll in the hay, you just don't want to let them down!
Now don't beat yourself up over this. This is natural! You're tired, maybe stressed, you've had a long day at work. It's okay. But for those times that you want to turn back "on" so you can be at the top of your game, and perform, not just for your partner, but also for yourself, there's a few little tweaks you can add to your routine that just may help bring the spice back to your night.
Read on and discover 5 super simple ways to get in the mood tonight, or any night, that you need that little boost.
Physical Changes That Bring You Back
Remember that time you lit candles and burned some incense to help set a mood and a theme for your hot date? You did that for reason. It works! Our bodies and minds remember these special moments and the physical environment we are in when these moments happen. A few small physical changes that you can make, right now, will "snap" you back into form.
- Slow down and breathe. Relax. Reduce stress and just be
- Activate one of your senses at a time. Set the lighting, try some oils or incense. Music
- Change environment completely. Bedroom not working? How about the living room, sex in the shower ... the kitchen?
Fantasy Isn't Just for Superheroes and Big Screen Cartoons
The physical changes create a great impact, but for some people, it's the visualization and the anticipation that really sets them off. What's your biggest desire? What do you really dream of? Is it a sexy costume? A new position? Maybe like being talked dirty to? Don't be afraid of this, embrace it! Talk with your partner about what this might look like for the two of you. You might just find, they have fantasies of their own.
Sometimes, It's the Small Things
When the pressure is mounting, you may feel obligated to make a grand gesture. A big move to help you get your groove back. But that's not the case at all. It's often the small things that have the biggest impact! Find one little thing to change about your scenario that can help get things pumping, and make that small move. Little by little, stack these small moves and eventually they will turn into a big connected body of work... and hopefully, some body on body action!
Let's Flip the Script
Sometimes, it's not you that's out of sorts, but your partner, and you are full throttle raring to go. This is equally as frustrating, if not more, then being out of the mood! So what do you do? This is a tricky one and something that everyone battles, so don't be ashamed and don't add additional pressure to the situation. Instead, be creative, be connected, and be together. Whisper sweet things in their ear. Touch them lightly. Brush up against them. Maybe the subtle innuendo? Think of what's helped spark interest in your partner in the past, and light that up! It only takes that one little thing to help move you and them in the right direction.
One More Thing...
Some like toys, some like grand gestures like trips or nights in hotels, but most just need a little, small start to get their juices rolling and put them back in the mood. Whether that's you or your partner, your hormones are just around the corner and merely need to be triggered. Try any of the items listed above and see how they work for you. But this next recommendation is sure to seal the deal, otherwise you probably wouldn't even be on this website!
What is this simple, secret method to put you in the mood? Porn! Whether it's your own home videos or full-length hardcore videos like you'll find at Bang!, flipping your favorite stars up on the big screen to help get you in the mood is sure to seal the deal. Give it a try for yourself. It just may turn you from deep blue cold to burning red hot!