Ah, January. The month where everyone swears they'll turn into a better version of themselves. Gym memberships, meal prep containers, daily planners that will definitely be abandoned in 6 weeks... People have such optimistic goals like "meditate daily" and "learn Spanish" (again). But what about your relationships? While you're busy trying to be a kale-eating, morning-journaling guru, your emotional and sexual connections could use some attention, too.
So, your friends at Bang! are here to talk to you about into how you can build stronger sexual relationships and emotional connections this year. Spoiler alert: it’s more fun than waking up at 5 am to go for a run.
1. Communication: The Sexiest Skill of 2025
Mind reading isn’t real. So If you want a stronger connection, start by talking. No, not just small talk... I’m talking about honest, vulnerable, and sometimes awkward conversations about your feelings, desires, and boundaries.
Not sure how to start? Try something light yet revealing, like, “If you could describe our relationship as a movie genre, what would it be?” If they say “horror,” you’ve probably got some work to do!
Pro Tip: Set aside time for these chats when you’re both relaxed. Maybe over a glass of wine or during a post-dinner walk—just not while binging Netflix. Nobody wants to pause "Stranger Things" to discuss intimacy.
2. Embrace the Awkward Stuff
Sex and emotions are like karaoke: they’re way better when you embrace the awkwardness. Want to try something new in the bedroom? Nervous about expressing your deepest feelings? Lean into it. A little awkwardness means you’re exploring uncharted territory, and that’s where growth happens.
Remember, laughter is your best ally. Accidentally elbow your partner while trying a new position? Laugh it off. Stumble over your words while sharing your feelings? Laugh that off too. They probably think it's endearing. You're human, and your willingness to be imperfect creates a safe space for your partner to do the same.
3. Schedule Sex (Yes, Really! Come on... try it.)
I know, I know—scheduling sex sounds about as romantic as a dentist appointment. But hear me out... it can work. Don't knock it till you try it. Maybe you hate it-but! Life is busy. Between work, kids, errands... spontaneous intimacy often takes a backseat.
Scheduling sex ensures it stays a priority. Think of it as planning a mini-date night with guaranteed fireworks. Plus, the anticipation can actually make it more exciting. Text your partner a sexy reminder earlier in the day, and watch how the sparks start flying before you even get home.
4. Rediscover Non-Sexual Intimacy
Sometimes, stronger sexual connections start outside the bedroom. Non-sexual intimacy—like cuddling, holding hands, or even just making prolonged eye contact can deepen your bond and create a foundation for better sex.
Try this: set aside 10 minutes to just sit and talk while holding hands. No phones, no distractions, just you and your partner. It’s amazing how something so simple can make you feel closer. Bonus points if you longingly gaze into each other’s eyes without laughing (yeah... good luck with that).
5. Get Curious About Your Partner
Think you know everything about your partner? Think again. People evolve, and so do their needs, desires, and interests. Make it a goal this year to stay curious about each other. Ask questions, share new experiences, and discover what makes them tick in 2025.
One fun idea: create a “couples’ bucket list” with things you want to do together this year. Whether it’s trying a new restaurant, taking a dance class, or skydiving (for the adrenaline junkies), shared adventures can strengthen your bond and create lasting memories.
6. Prioritize Self-Love
Here’s the thing: you can’t pour from an empty cup. Building stronger connections starts with taking care of yourself. This means addressing your own emotional needs, setting boundaries, and—yes—exploring your own sexuality.
Take time to reflect on what makes you happy, both in and out of your relationship. Invest in self-care, whether that’s therapy, journaling, or a solo dance party in your kitchen. When you’re fulfilled as an individual, you bring your best self to the relationship.
7. Make Laughter Your Love Language
Nothing strengthens a relationship quite like shared laughter. In 2025, make it a goal to inject more humor into your daily lives. Watch a comedy special, try a silly board game, or just reminisce about that time you both got lost on a “short hike” that turned into a six-hour ordeal. The more you laugh together, the stronger your connection becomes.
8. Seek Professional Help (and Celebrate It!)
Therapy isn’t just for when things go wrong; it’s also a fantastic tool for growth. Couples therapy or sex therapy can help you navigate challenges, communicate more effectively, and build a more satisfying relationship. I mean hey, it worked for Gabriela Lopez in her Trickery scene...
Think of it as a relationship tune-up. You wouldn’t drive your car for years without maintenance, so why treat your relationship any differently? Plus, it’s way less stressful than trying to change a tire on the side of the road—metaphorically or literally.
9. Celebrate the Wins
Finally, don’t forget to celebrate your progress. Whether it’s overcoming a disagreement, trying something new in the bedroom, or simply surviving a stressful week together, acknowledge the victories. Building stronger connections is a journey, so take time to appreciate how far you’ve come.
So there you have it: a roadmap to stronger sexual relationships and emotional connections this year. Remember, it’s not about being perfect; it’s about showing up, being present, and making an effort. And if all else fails, there’s always wine, humor, and the universal appeal of a good cuddle.
Here’s to a year of love, laughter, and a whole lot of connection. You’ve got this!
