Convincing your partner to watch porn with you can sound like a mission worthy of its own movie plot, right up there with “How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days” or “Mission Impossible.” But hear me out—introducing porn into your relationship doesn’t have to be cringe-worthy or involve a PowerPoint presentation with graphs and stats. With a little humor and an open mind, it can actually be a fun way to add some spice to your sex life and even bring you closer. Here’s how to approach it with a laugh (and a fair amount of charm) to avoid turning it into a scene from “CringeFest 2024.”
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1. Timing is Everything
First of all, don’t just blurt it out over breakfast. “Hey babe, pass the syrup—and by the way, how about a little X-rated movie tonight?” That’s a recipe for awkward silence or maybe a cinnamon roll launched in your direction. Timing is key, so pick a moment when you’re both relaxed and open to conversation. Maybe over a glass of wine, or during one of those late-night chats where you’re both feeling a bit adventurous.
Starting off with something light, like, “I came across an article on the internet…don’t worry, not about that… but it did mention how watching certain videos together can actually bring couples closer. What do you think?” shows you’re not pressuring them—you’re just floating a fun little idea out there.
2. The “It’s Not You, It’s…Science” Approach
Now, a little psychology 101 here: nobody likes to feel like they’re not enough. So make sure this isn’t about something lacking in your sex life! Instead, position it as an adventure you could try together. You could even toss in some pseudo-science (or real science, if you’ve done your homework!) about how shared experiences bring couples closer. “I read that trying new things together can release oxytocin and dopamine—you know, the happy chemicals!”
And if they ask where you got your “research,” just tell them it was from the same place that told you daily naps are vital to success. Trust me, science has your back here.
3. Show Some Genuine Curiosity
Admit it—there are plenty of reasons people think watching porn is a solo activity, and maybe your partner is one of them. Rather than dive right in, ask them how they feel about it. “So, have you ever thought about watching…uh, certain things together?” (Because why say “porn” when you can make it sound like a secret government operation?) Show some genuine curiosity about their feelings and be ready to listen. They might surprise you!
And who knows, they may have a few reservations they’ve never shared. But by approaching it like you’re solving a mystery together, you’re showing that their comfort matters more than anything else.
4. Suggest a Genre That Won’t Scare Them Off
If they’re open to trying, the next hurdle is picking the right, uh, “genre.” Diving into the most intense stuff you can find is like choosing a thriller for your first date movie. Instead, suggest something that has a “couples-friendly” vibe or even softcore erotica, which tends to be less, let’s say, adrenaline-packed. “I heard there’s this type of film that’s, you know, romantic…for couples. You know, the kind of plot we don’t have to follow too closely!”
There are tons of sites these days with content curated to be more inclusive, diverse, and respectful. Plus, you’ll score points for caring enough to do a little, er, “research” ahead of time to ensure it’s not a total shock to the system.
5. Embrace the Awkward Moments
No matter how well you plan, watching porn with your partner will have a few awkward moments—like, the “wait, did he just do that?” moments. Just remember that if things get a bit weird or you end up laughing at an especially over-the-top scene, roll with it. Watching porn together doesn’t have to be all serious or silent; actually, it can be a fun way to relax and bond.
If you both end up cracking up at the dramatic acting or unrealistic plot twists, don’t worry. You’ll still get closer just by laughing together! “Did you see his face in that scene?” or “I’m pretty sure that position requires a gym membership and a degree in physics.” Laughing through it can break the ice and make it something you’ll both remember fondly (and laugh about) later.
6. Keep Checking In (and Don’t Be a Porn Pusher)
After the first shared experience, don’t assume that now you’re on a weekly viewing schedule. Check in to see how they felt about it afterward. Maybe they enjoyed it, or maybe they didn’t—either way, it’s all good. No one wants to feel pressured into making something a “regular thing,” especially when it comes to something personal like this.
Try asking, “So, was that fun for you, or was it a one-time experiment?” You might discover they had more fun than they expected or realize it’s not their thing. Either way, respecting their boundaries is key to avoiding a follow-up conversation about your love affair with the adult film industry.
7. Don’t Take It (or Yourself) Too Seriously
At the end of the day, remember this is supposed to be fun. Watching porn together isn’t a mandatory couples exercise—it’s just one of many ways to try something new and keep things interesting. So laugh at the awkward bits, embrace the unusual “plot twists,” and treat it like the harmless, curiosity-driven experiment that it is.
If it ends up becoming a new way for you both to bond, then congrats—you’ve unlocked a new level of coupledom. And if not, no worries. You can always go back to the reliable old classics, like re-watching Friends and experimenting with a couple’s massage. Either way, you’ll have something new to laugh about together for years to come!
