Whether you're watching the latest romantic comedy on Netflix or your favorite porno on a site like Bang!, it's easy to get lost in the misconception that BIG is BETTER. Bigger gestures, bigger surprises, bigger... cocks? And while that misconception may be running around your noggin' stirring up all sorts of anxiety, let's pump the brakes a bit. Bigger, faster, louder, whatever... is absolutely NOT required for that intimacy that you and your partner oh so desire. More often than not, it's the little, not the big, that makes the lasting difference.
Why the Little Things Matter
While everyone loves a good fuck, connected and lasting relationships need just a little bit more to reach true intimacy. Safety, trust, closeness, connectedness. All words that take you to a different level when you are with that special someone. And those don't just happen overnight. They slowly stack over many interactions, many embraces, many connections. All interweaving within one another.
Below is a list of 10 things that you can begin to sprinkle into your day-to-day life with that special someone. Try one today and watch how they respond. Pepper in another to see connection build. Add a third and watch the magic unfold.
10 Intimacy Boosting Actions to Try Today
1. The Passing Touch
Gently brush up against them while you pass by in the kitchen. The arm, elbow, back, waist. Anything that lets them know you see them..
2. The Longer-Than-Usual Hug
A good hug makes everyone feel loved and cared for. A longer than usual hug? A nice surprise that will have them smiling ear-to-ear.
3. The Slow Face or Jaw Caress
Lightly brushing the jaw line can shoot energy immediately throughout the body. Try this to grab their attention and watch them swoon.
4. The Private Inside Joke Whisper
While inside jokes are not fun for a third wheel, a connected couple will giggle in delight over silly secrets. Whisper these softly in their ear.
5. The Palm-to-Palm Handhold
Holding hands is a sure way to bring happiness. Spice it up by looking directly in each other's eyes and pushing your palms against each other.
6. The Guided Breath Sync
You've heard of the mirroring effect, now put it into action with your partner. Rest next to them and match their breathing pattern. You will be completely in sync and emotional alignment.
7. The Light Neck or Shoulder Kiss
While deep passionate kisses keep the love alive, sweet pecks on the neck or shoulder let your partner know you can't get enough of them.
8. The Unexpected Compliment
Compliments are so easy to give, yet so few give them. Think deeply about what you appreciate about your partner and let them know!
9. The “Stay Close” Touch During Conversations
When having deep conversations, don't just stare, but also touch. Knee, back, thigh. Just a simple touch let's them know you are 100% with them.
10. The Bedroom “Preview Touch”
Everyone loves to feel desired. Give a small, playful touch that lets them know more fun is in store for later.
Any, or all, of these light touches can help build connection and intimacy between you and your partner. Strengthening your love and desire, and creating even greater, more passionate sex that will rival even the greatest of pornstars. Once you have your intimacy "on lock," keep going so that you keep that connection forever. And when you are ready for tips on the greatest sex positions, head over to Bang! Thousands of videos starring hundreds of world famous porn stars can't be wrong.
